While I'm trying to navigate this blogging world, I thought I'd reach back out to Peter Steele's fans and ask you a question ...What do you want to read and see more of ?
You know we value your creativity, you thoughtful words, your dedication to us and Peter. For us, this blog was set up to be a POSITIVE force ... let's try to keep it in that vein.
As you know, Pete didn't have much love for reporters and often felt that they misquoted him and the bandmembers -- in life and now in death -- so sometimes he'd just make things up when being interviewed. So there is lots of stories and interviews that are just not real -- and in some cases, these rumors/half-truths have taken on a life of their own. LOL
In addition to the great funny stories we'd like to continue to share with you, I hope you will allow us to write about the struggles in Peter's life. From time to time, we may write about how in the lowest points in Peter's life (and really anyone's life), that it's your caring friends and your closest family that helps bring you to that better place. This is where I need to thank his last caring girlfriend LISA for being part of his recovery story. Even in those low times, all the crying, pleading, threatening that a family does to help bring you back to a better place, away from the people who try to leech off of you, is sometimes the hardest part. It's the leeches and evil people who want to keep you down ... getting you away from them isn't so easy ... sometimes they refuse to release their claws.
I remember the day that Peter came to me to apologize for making me worry about him. It was a hard day for both of us. He was nearing his sober time. He knew I had seen a Youtube video of him very drunk and very angry with his family, with his life, with his choices. He knew I was upset because through it all ... even his lowest time in his life ... my mom (Patricia) had been constant connection for him. He apologized for his words, his actions, his failings. And he thanked me for my love. He asked me to go into business with him for a project he had in mind. We laughed about some of his ideas and we made fun of some characters he recently met. THIS is the video you don't see on Youtube -- the intimate interactions he had with his family -- This is a video I play over and over in my mind. Something I will never share with the haters and naysayers.
So, again, dear readers, I thank you for being AUTHENTIC with your reactions to our blog and your love for my UNCLE. And I thank YOU for allowing me to be REAL with you.
So, I'll do the best I can to give you what you want to see. I'm opening the floor to suggestions.
Just wanna say thank u for sharing all these wonderful stories! Keep Em coming I look forward to reading all of them... Have a great day :)
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This Fan wants to know the real Pete (the good, bad, and funny)that only you can truely tell. Your doing an awesome job for him. He'd be very proud!
ReplyDeleteMany thanks for this post. I don't really have a suggestion to make at the moment (although I will give it some thought) but I just wanted to say that I know the video you're talking about, and I think all Peter's fans will be glad to know that he didn't mean what he said, and that he got the opportunity to say he was sorry.
ReplyDeleteThank you for allowing all of us to be a part of this wonderful blog and sharing all of your wonderful stories and photos of peter and your family. I consider it a great honor and a blessing!
ReplyDeleteThank you again and i look forward to reading more of the family memories that you are willing share.
I'm very much interested in where he was on 9/11, and his thoughts on that day. The cover of World Coming Down with the Twin Towers......quite a foreshadow.
ReplyDeleteAlso, are there any of his co-workers from the Parks Dept that could share some on the job stories about Peter's "other" job? Must have been quite a riot working alongside him!
After wondering about so many things for so long ,I am grateful for anything that you are gracious enough to share.I realize that Pete had his struggles.I have seen those videos.They don't change how I feel.It has long been my wish that someone close to Pete would write his biography.... . Maybe it's you.Regards.
ReplyDeleteI have a feeling I know which youtube video you are talking about, and I always wondered if he was able to make peace with his sisters, as he had always appeared to hold them so close to his heart. It was so sad to see that video and hear/see what his addictions were doing to him, and was probably one of the first (sadly not the last) videos I walked away from feeling nothing but pity for him.
ReplyDeleteI think that as long as you keep the blog real and talk about whatever you all want to talk about, we're here to listen/read. As sad as the circumstances are, it's been great to get a peek behind the curtains, but I don't think any of us are assuming that it was all sunshine and lollipops.
Thanks for asking us what we would like to know and the fact that you may be able to share some of it with us.I would love to see photos of his modified car, his cats and anything else that was special to him.
ReplyDeleteIs there a story behind his tattoos? Was he under age when he got them and was tattooing even legal then? Was it a backyard job? Did he get in trouble from his parents for getting them.
I would also like to understand more about his struggles because that was also a part of Peter. I believe that is why he was able to touch our souls, he experienced extreme emotions..good and bad and knew how to portray that in his lyrics. His addiction,health,girlfriends,deaths,bipolar, jail.I always think about Peter and how lost he was for all those years.It continues to break my heart that such a beautiful person had so much inner conflict.
Thank you so much Marie... your family's stories about Peter have become quite the highlight of my day. With each one I feel like I'm getting to know him more and more and loving the person he was. I don't know how or why but through your stories...though Peter... I see so much of my father sometimes whom I miss dearly...and other times I see so much of my boyfriend (of 5 yrs) who is an even bigger TOM fan than me... It has allowed me a way to connect with Peter I never thought possible and I'm so glad you and your family have shared these wonderful stories with us. Just keep them coming is all I can say...
ReplyDeleteI love what you and your family are doing with this blog. Don't change anything. I just wanted to say, that it breaks my heart to think of all the leaches,( people if you must call them that) that took advantage of Peter. Such a kind person. To be the kind, friendly, gentle, soul that he was, and be around so many people and be so alone, is gut wrenching. It makes my soul cry. Having gone through recovery myself, I understand the anger he felt towards those closest to him. I'm sorry you all had to go though what you did. I know that deep down inside Peter knew you cared, and did what you did out of love. Stay strong. We the fans love you all.
ReplyDeleteHonestly, I think I can speak for a majority of the fans who come here and check for stories, photographs and/or anything else that may be posted on here, that we are just thankful that you're sharing the real Peter Steele with us all. The insight into another side of him, the side we, the fans never got to see. The side we'll never see.
ReplyDeleteThe fans are hurt and upset for his passing but, I think we all know from personal experiences with losing a loved one, that it's a hell of a lot more devistating to those who were close to the person. Yes, we all love Peter. We all miss him dearly and have an immense amount of admiration and respect for him.
I think that we all know that the media has always been a thorn in the sides of people who step out and do their own thing. Who are different. Those who have chosen to be themselves rather than something phony. We all make mistakes, we all do things we're not proud of and nobody is perfect, the media just wants to make money at other people's expense. I could give them all two words I'm sure everyone would agree with.
In closing, I want to thank you for taking them time out to share the side of Peter you all know and love with us as we share with you all the sides of Peter that we know and love. Peter's music was always a positive influence on me, no matter how negative it seemed. He was genuine, real and he remained that way. He never changed for what society would want him to be. He never changed with the times. Peter made the times adjust to him. He stayed true to himself and who he was! I can't put into words how much I have always respected him.
So thank you all for your stories, your photos, and sharing. We all love Peter, we all miss him. Hopefully, this can turn into the positive thing that you all hoped for when starting it and the family can help the fans and in turn, we try to help you all as well. Loss is hard, no matter who you are but, I think the fans can be an outside source of love and support! Thank you all.
First off I just need to say a huge heartfelt THANK YOU to the whole Ratajczyk Family for doing this blog. As many fans have said in the comments, if I'm heartbroken like this over Peter & I'm just a fan, I cannot even fathom the thought of how his beloved family & closest friends feel since he went "Home". I personally feel that you are all doing a wonderful job with what you are sharing. You've been posting the most interesting things about Peter that really helps to understand him as a person. It makes me love him & appreciate him even more now. I've loved Peter since the first time I ever went to L'Amours when I was 18 years old & heard & saw the most unique sounding & looking band ever. That was in 1991. I am now 38 & TON remains my favorite band & Peter my favorite singer. Maybe it seems silly but it makes me so proud to be a Brooklynite & being able to say that the best singer, lyricist, composer, true musician extraordinaire, beautiful human being inside & out is where I'm from. :) I guess what I'm trying to say is, please keep it coming, no matter what it is, even the low points in his life. Unfortunately/fortunately the lows made Peter who he was too. He was very real & called it like it was. Something I learned from him through his music was that he faced his demons head on & so should I. Maybe sometimes we fail but there is no shame in that. Just try again. I learned that from him. That's just one of the many, many important life lessons I learned from him. :) It means so much to me (& all the rest of the fans I'm sure) to come to this positive blog & read about his life from the people who truly knew him best. Thank you again for sharing your priceless memories, thoughts & pictures of Peter as you knew him. It is truly a gift to us who did not have the pleasure & honor of knowing him personally. God Bless you all. You are a wonderful family. Much love to all you Ratajczyks.
ReplyDeleteHugs, Love & Light always,
M
I love the way it's been going. Hearing about his life and funny stories. Makes me feel like I know him a bit better.
ReplyDeleteI love the personal accounts of Peter's family life. It is interseting and comforting to know that the person who influenced so many of us had such strong and positive family bonds - even as he had struggles, like so many creative and open-hearted people. These accounts make this larger-than-life man even more real an wonderful.
ReplyDeleteThis blog is the first thing I read every day. I love being able to see different sides of the guy who we all loved in one way or another. And to hear the stories come directly from his family is the best thing because you're right, interviews with the media are probably never the complete truth. So I would love to still read stories from the family, the people who knew every side of Peter. Even if there is a story that isn't so happy and light, it's part of him and therefore special. So I say just keep on doing what you're doing by showing us the many sides of Peter Steele. I think it's also important to keep some things private like you said, the intimate moments you shared with him. I believe anything you want to share with all of us as his fans is good enough--we don't ask for anything more! I'm sure you've heard it a lot but thank you for this blog. It's a special thing...
ReplyDeleteWow! Your post brought tears to my eyes! I can see that Peter's kindness flows right through his family! I only wish I had a family as caring as you! I love everything you have shared, even though I'm not sure how to subscribe. Do you have any good stories of Pete and Josh when they were young? Perhaps a funny Coney Island story, or maybe a funny story about La Mour? I just can't thank you enough for creating this site! I feel it helps all of us to heal. I hope you feel the same! Know that Peter is alive and well in my heart and soul! I do blast Type O Negative EVERYDAY, Just like I have for the last 16+ years! I Love all of you! Much Love ~ Carrie Libman <3
ReplyDeleteI'll never know Pete, I can only imagine in my dreams. You always feel proud to Pete, you feel lucky to have him beside. I'm just a fan who knows him only through the pc and his lyrics;
ReplyDeleteI do not see Pete as an ordinary person, an angel appears to me is hard to explain .... I just know that has a space in my heart, for no particular reason, and I hope very often it's just one of his joke.
For me it's a real honor to write this blog, thanks for creating this blog and keep always updated.
sorry my english
a hug from Italy
Flo ...
Hearing about Peter through the eyes of his family is truly a joy. It isn't often that you are able to get such a well-rounded perspective of someone you idolize. I am grateful for any and all stories that you have to offer.
ReplyDeleteI am so grateful for everything that you post here! Being able to see this genuine side of anyone is rare these days. I think any stories you share here, whether it is of a light hearted or a dark rock bottom nature, for me it helps to connect to him more. It helps to seperate the man painted by the media and reminds us of his human nature. We all know that everyone has moments in life that are lower than others, and I am so grateful that he had such a strong network of family and friends to help him through everything. As an honest fan that never got the opportunity to meet any of the band members, or to even see them play live, I can tell you anything you post here will be accepted hungrily and unequivocally. Thank you!
ReplyDeleteI check your blog every day, and I laugh when I imagine the look on Pete's face if he knew his family was telling his fans all these wonderful stories. I wonder what practical joke he would play on each of you to get you back :)
ReplyDeleteThank you for creating this blog and allowing us to see how wonderful Peter really was throughout his life. I love reading all of it, so anything you'd like to write about Pete is fine with me.
I almost never remember my dreams, but a few nights ago I dreamed that Peter was trying to repair my car. I don't know what surprises me more, that I dreamed of him (and his Brooklyn accent) or that he fixed my car.
There are so many things that go through my mind when you ask what we (the fans) would like to see on here. Well, personally, one of the things I wanted to know, you just answered (about the Youtube video). But another thing that plagues me is what he is saying in a lot of songs when he he's speaking a different language. I'd like to see a section on here titled, "What the Heck is He Saying??" lol
ReplyDeleteMany thanks to the Ratajczyk family for creating this blog. It means the world to the true fans. The music is a huge driving force in my life - something I can't ever get anyone who doesn't lisen to understand. But those who do listen, definitely know what I mean.
Thanks again.
I just thank the family for sharing the events we didn't get to see in the media. What I would like to add is that with all this information being collected in one place, that It's my fondest wish that you all seek a publisher to help pull everything together into one volume fans can buy to treasure in hard copy. I know I'd definitely stand in line for my copy.
ReplyDeleteI think you should seek a publisher. A tribute book for him would be wonderful.
ReplyDeletePlease tell us about Pete's cats. Is someone in the family taking care of them?
ReplyDeleteThank you again for sharing so much with us. It's nice to be able to discover that other side of Peter, the one you don't always get through lyrics.
ReplyDeletewhat a special man he was.
I enjoy reading anything you feel writing to be honest. I know Peter's life (like all of ours) was not filled with only great moments but there was also some down times too. I think writing about some of his struggles would be a good idea because it may help someone else and it would also show that while he was a caring, loving, and comical person that he overcome those obstacles. It does my heart good knowing that even during those hard time, his family and friends never gave up on him. It shows a bond that could never be broken. I love the blogs and always look forward to reading them!
ReplyDeleteHi Darcie--
ReplyDeleteI'm new to this blogging thing, so I hope I'm doing this right.
First, thank you for starting this blog; I actually found it by accident. This gives those of us who didn't have the privilege of knowing Peter insight into his life.
I personally don't mind reading about the "downs" in his life. Nobody's life is perfect, and everything he went through made him the person he was.
As a fellow animal-lover and fitness fanatic I'd like to read more about his love of animals and
fitness.I'd also like to know if there are any animal welfare groups he supported; I'd like to make a donation in his memory.
And I have to say, as someone who studied English I laugh every time I read how Peter hated reporters/journalists. I had to take Journalism and I hated every minute of it! I knew I could never be a reporter--sometimes you have to stretch things to get a story!
Anyway, I hope this gets to you and that you're getting great feedback. Thanks again for doing this. I'm sure it fills a void for many of us.
Patty P. (black4panzy@aol.com)
Hi! I have two suggestions: I never know who is writing. Please, name yourselves. We all will be glad to know and call you by your names. The second suggestion is to write about Peter's work process. I think most of us would like to know what inspired him and how he used to work. In my case, I'm not interested in gossip about women and everything. I'm interested in the artist. Hugs from Brazil to all the family!
ReplyDeleteI love reading all kinds of stories, my sincere thanks for this blog! I read this almost every day. Your uncle was a genius, one of a kind. I love him and his music so much.
ReplyDeletelove reading all kinds of stories, my sincere thanks for this blog!!
ReplyDeletelove reading this, all kinds of stories!
ReplyDeleteI'll never know Pete, I can only imagine in my dreams. You always feel proud to Pete, you feel lucky to have him beside. I'm just a fan who knows him only through the pc and his lyrics;
ReplyDeleteI do not see Pete as an ordinary person, an angel appears to me is hard to explain .... I just know that has a space in my heart, for no particular reason, and I hope very often it's just one of his joke.
For me it's a real honor to write this blog, thanks for creating this blog and keep always updated.
sorry my english
a hug from Italy
Flo ...
I say, just keep them coming! Every story is great. All the more personal, the better people get to connect.
ReplyDeletePeter always mentioned he would prefer not to be in a high profile band and just to work for the parks dept. Maybe you could do a segment on Peters mentality when it came to manual labor, work ethic and his love for music, why he may have just prefered to keep it as a personal vice.
Regardless, I honestly love the site.
Chase Fahnert
Growing up, I did not realize that the truth could be misrepresented or even wilfully distorted in the press. Honestly, I only thought this was something that occurs in school, but obviously as any adult with a bit of "real life experience" can attest that petty, insecure, and spiteful people will continue to behave this way throughout life, and unfortunately some end up working for the press. Someone as loving and creative as Peter, your brother, uncle, friend, unfortunately became the fodder for exactly such insecure individuals. More often than not, they will justify their actions by saying that because one is a public figure, then this kind of treatment by the media is acceptable. Of course it's not, it's despicable, but then you already know that.
ReplyDeleteI am happy that you who are closest to him have created this blog. It is precisely the loving, sensitive, and caring side of Peter that we as his fans always knew was there - as many who had met him will confirm - however this often went unreported in the press. It must have been exceptionally hard for you to read exaggerated reports about his life, and I can not even begin to imagine the frustration you must felt when his statements or actions were taken out of context. My hats off to you in the face of such negativity. You have created a beautiful tribute to him, and although I can speak for myself here, I am touched and honored you are sharing these memories with us, his fans.
Thank you!
first of all I would like to thank the Ratajczyk clan for their generosity and kindness towards Peter's many fans. Choosing to share private stories, photos and memories of your beloved brother/uncle/cousin, giving such a privileged insight into the life and personality of a man and artist that has been an inspiration and valued influence in so many lives, this is truly something.
ReplyDeletePersonally, I would love to read more about Peter's early days learning how to play an instrument, his first performances and bands. I believe I've read that he wasnt very into being the lead singer at first and I would love to know more of how he grew into the amazing frontman he would become. Thank you.
I enjoy reading any stories that you may have. Also, I love seeing any old personal photos you may have. Thank you for sharing!
ReplyDeleteAmanda
Share what you want to share. I love reading everything you put here.
ReplyDeleteAbout what you said about Peter's attitude towards interviews, I really love reading interviews with him. It's the funniest stuff I know of, mostly because he said anything he'd want to say. Peter was without a doubt the funniest person I know of. I always thought (and still think) it was funny in a way that he always said that he wasn't alcoholic and then said he was part Russian and part Icelandic and this was considered normal in those countries. Of course it's not funny that he had his problems with substances, but the fact that he blamed being Icelandic/Russian is funny in my opinion.
At last, I want to thank you all for sharing all these stories. They've brought me tears and laughter, sometimes at the same time. I love it!
WOW ... I was right ... you guys are great. Really, thank you for your comments and your suggestions for the blog. To answer a couple of questions:
ReplyDelete* unless otherwise noted Darcie (me) is doing all the writing and posts
* Peter's cats were left in his apt when he died and Peter's sister, Pam adopted them and they live very happily in her home.
More to come ... thanks
I just have to say, that personally, I am very greatfull for every story the family has posted on this blog. I start every day checking in to see what new memory will be waiting here. So, anything you all post and share is wonderfull! Thanks so much for letting fans like me listen to your deeply personal stories about the man I admired so much! Much appreciated! Kirsten
ReplyDeleteTo the Ratajczyk family,
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for sharing all the stories about Peter. Peter's ups and downs are things that fans can relate to and find inspirational.
I do have a question: The look of Type O Negative, from albums to stage sets, was powerful and totally unique. I know Peter was responsible for the design of much of this: Was he into the visual arts? Did he draw, and keep a sketchbook going?
Again, thank you for sharing so much about Peter with the fans. We still miss him badly and always will. Your blog helps to portray the real man behind the art. Whether serious, funny or romantic I have very much been enjoying all the memories of Peter. RIP PETER.
Sincerely, Jessica (Black Number 1)
Just want to thank you for everything that has been and will be shared here. When I got word of peters death I called my mother in a fit of tears, she knew how much he meant to me and her consoling words were that nothing he had given me could ever be taken away simply I would have no new memories to add but my memories and his music would stay with me forever.........this blog and Cathys Facebook have given me something new to look forward to everyday. I love all the stories good and bad again thank you so much
ReplyDeletefirst off, thank you all for sharing the stories and insights on petes life outside of the band. i feel juvenile saying this (im a 34 year old guy) but i cried like ababy the day he died. i felt, and still do, so connected to peter. first through the musicand then learning about him in interviews. he was a true artist. true artists create because they have to, not because they want to. i never met the man and never even got as close as the pit at a show, but i always felt like i understood him and where he was coming from on a musical and personal level. ive followed many artists though the years in many genres but no one has ever had such an impact as peter. the things i read in this blog only reaffirm the connection ive felt through the years. the only thing id like to see is some insight on the "negative" side of pete. what caused hisdepression and addictions? why did he hate himself? or was some or all of that a stage persona? dont get me wrong, keep posting the funny shit too! would just like to have a deeper understanding of what made him tick. thanks again for sharing! i check in everyday and will as long as you keep posting! -jim
ReplyDeletePeter's music has seen me through a lot of tough times in my life, and it really hurts to think that when he needed support I couldn't be there for him.
ReplyDeleteThis blog really means a lot to me, and I am so grateful to you, Darcie, and the whole Ratayjczyk family for sharing your memories with me.
That said, there really isn't much that I'm NOT interested in hearing about, I always look forward to hearing more about what kind of a person Peter was, what types of things made him angry/happy/sad/inspired or otherwise.
Thanks so much!
I just want to thank all of Pete's family for these stories. They're amazing. It's nice to see the real man behind the talent.
ReplyDeleteI also agree with an above poster, that naming yourselves per post would be helpful. It's nice to have a name to go with you wonderful people as well.
As for stories, I appreciate anything you are willing to share. I have loved all the Pete/Nettie stories so far.
Again, thank you all :)
~ Synn
Thank You so much to the Ratajcyzk Family for this site, for the insight and the truth you have disclosed to us fans. You certainly did not have to; and it's just so astonishing that you have let us fans realize a whole other personal side to the man who helped so many of us in so many ways.
ReplyDeleteI watched an interview from way back the other day and the interviewer asked Peter what he wants to be remembered for... \Peter said he just wanted to know that he helped people through tough times with his band's music, his lyrics.... Mission accomplished I'd say!
Having asked us fans what we would like to know more about.... well, I am afraid it may seem be a little intrusive to share more insight about the 'dark days'.... BUT as Peter himself admitted that he had substance abuse issues, one would THINK that Peter wouldn't want everyone knowing about his horror stories with the substances. Then again having been an addict for many years myself and working in a rehab now; I can tell from the pain in songs like White Slavery and Dead Again.... Peter was crying out not just for help but to WARN his fans, THIS is the wonderful CRAP life of an addict and it f---ing sucks. But no one can ever say DON'T DO IT, you can lead that horse to water, but you can't make him/her drink.
Having said that, maybe a little bit of the reality of what it was like to see your cherished and loved family member - fight another kind of battle. Maybe he didn't let it show, as he obviously adored and revered you all. But you must have known and maybe sharing some of the Peripheral insights of the family who loved him may HELP the fans on this blog see that drug abuse is a LIFE sentence.
This blog is so amazing and I check it daily and I really appreciate all the stories of love, truth and solidity. Even the greatest men and women in the world fall prey to horror stories. If insight can help prevent, why not share that too:?
Just a suggestion! Thank you! :)
Reading it and listening TON makes me feel like he is near. Never was on concert of TON, living in Russia. Maybe you post something funny or not about Peter's Russian roots or his feel and relation to Russia. Many russian fans are will be appreciated!
ReplyDeleteI would love to hear anything you are willing to share.. the good & the bad. No one is perfect & no judgements made here. Peter was very open to his fans about his mistakes & we love, respect & accept him completely. Much love to the Ratajczyk family for all you have shared with us, its a testament to the wonderful family you are! xo
ReplyDeletePlease put together a book for us. Something we can share with people not on a screen. He deserves a tribute in print.
ReplyDeleteStrange, not strangers.
Carrie
Like so many others who follow this blog, I feel so fortunate to be able to get to know more about Peter Steele through the words of those that knew him best...his family. These stories have been both funny & heart warming, & have proven to me what I already knew really...Peter was one in a million. An irreplaceable force in the music world, but especially irreplaceable to family & friends. I thank each & every person that has shared here, so that we (his fans) might enjoy another side of Peter that only those closest to him knew.
ReplyDeleteAs for myself, I have loved every single thing shared here. I absolutely eat up every line written, & so appreciate the time & effort put into this blog. ANYTHING shared is great, I especially would like to hear more Nettie & Peter stories (the one about her visit to the TON show was priceless!), also maybe some things about Peter and his Dad, stories of memorable shows the family saw or heard about, and the very early years when he was just starting in the music business....just more, more, more of any & everything. Even after all of this time, there will never, ever be enough said about Peter Steele.
I can only repeat what has been said and that is a heartfelt thank you to your entire family for putting up this blog. The stories are all wonderful. Thank you for sharing that side of Peter.
ReplyDeleteNot a day goes by that I don't play at least one TON album. I remember the first time being introduced to their music...1995 when they opened for Queensryche. I was like "I need to buy everything they have recorded NOW." My kids are fans as well. My 14 year old son did a written report on Halloween in Heaven for his 8th grade music class. He had to explain the song and its meaning to him. His teacher loved it. Still trying to convince her to get the school to do a song for a concert, though...lol.
I would love to hear about family members. I hate that people get labled as metal, goth etc and love to see how "normal" people's lives are. You are doing an awesome job of showing all the sides of Pete so THANKS. I love hearing about the family too :)
ReplyDeleteI send my undying gratitude to the Ratajczyk family for having the courage and kindness to express the love felt for Pete by family, friends, associates and fans. Striking the delicate balance between willingly offering a lovingly candid view and taking caution with the knowledge that media may be peering in for a singular quote can be difficult and requires a great deal of consideration. Many fans are likely interested in topics such as his cats, automobile(s), time working with NY Parks & Rec, etc., which are fairly inocuous, interesting subjects that help his fans understand more about who he was, how he was.
ReplyDeleteWhat the Ratajczyk family is sharing is far more fascinating. It's the intrinsic value of having been an integral part of Pete's life. I believe people's shadows make them beautiful, and Pete was a man of unfathomably beautiful shadows. I urge you to share that side of him as well and to continue to do a wonderful job of allowing his memory a certain level of discretion.
Having met Pete just once, I will assure you all that even in a situation that left me flustered, embarrassed by a friend, Pete didn't take advantage of my situation. He was a lovely, kind gentleman with a particularly sweet side. If directly contacted through FB/email/website I'll gladly share that experience with the Ratajczyk family, and no part of that story will require Post-It's.
I hope I'm not stepping on anyone's toes here but since you asked what us fans would like to see, I have a few things. If you post FANTASTIC and if not, then I will just continue to wonder.
ReplyDeleteI would love to see more family pictures. I always wondered what Peter's family looked like and am so satisfied to now know. I'd like to hear about his love life namely, Elizabeth. There has so many rumors about their relationship and without going into specifics, maybe that time in his life can be touched upon? He seemed to have really loved her. Did the family feel the same about her? Also, where did Peter die? Did he die at home? In a hospital? Sorry if I am being too intrusive. I would totally respect and understand for these questions to go unanswered but since it's proven time after time, how much Peter has our respect, I don't really see any harm. Some of it would actually provide closure to many of us.
I just want to thank you girls for keeping it going. It can be very difficult being from a very large family (there's eight of us) and being the baby of my family, I've seen it all. The fights, the drugs, the disassociation. It's kinda like therapy reading this. And the most important thing here is the LOVE. You guys bring "family" back. And I thank you with all my heart. XO
ReplyDeleteThis blog has really proven to be theraputic for you, his family, and for the fans. It has for me as well. I have been a fan of Peter's music for almost 20 years. It has gotten me through the best times of my life and some of my worst. I am sure Peter had both. I love the family stories and pictures that we would never have been able to know if you had not created this blog. I love hearing how he loved children and animals. How close he was to his mother. You said you would share both the good and bad and if this question is intrusive and you wish not to answer I completely understand. I know there was a woman named Elizabeth in his life at one time. He made mention of her in the "World Coming Down" CD insert which actually sounded like an apology. I have also read and it does sound as though he screams "Elizabeth" in the background of the chorus when Kenny is singing. She seemed to be, and it could be rumored or "urban legend", that she had a huge impact on him and that he had made mistakes which ended the relationship. It sounded as though it was a very intense relationship. Can you shed some light? Again, I understand if you choose not to elaborate. I was also wondering, and again, you do not need to answer, but was Peter sick before his passing? I had read, and again don't know how true it was, that there was a possibility that he could have been survived if he had gone to the hospital sooner. I feel like I knew him and when I found out he passed I cried and cried for days. To me, as Peter would sing, "It's like a death in the family" to all his fans. One last thing which I thought would be interesting if any of the family members care to share their favorite songs, lyrics from a song, the hidden meaning to some songs which the fans might not know, or even a song you may not have liked. Just a thought. Thanks so much!!!!!
ReplyDeleteWould like to know about Pete's whereabouts and reaction to the 9/11 attacks.
ReplyDeleteFirst I'd like to say that I LOVE your blog and LOVE LOVE TON & Peter! There are some good ideas on here. I must say though...I am also curious about Elizabeth.
ReplyDeleteI posted a comment earlier up there but I just want to say thank you all again. And please, feel free to post about the lows of his life as well. Knowledge is power and pain is beauty when released in the right way and Peter did that for all of us when he was alive and you can continue on for him in death.
ReplyDeleteHe shared his pain in the most beautiful way he could and he entertained millions of people for more than 20 years. He shared so much of himself with all of us. He bared his soul to the world and let us all see the complexed and beautiful man that he was. He didn't just have outer beauty but he had even more inner beauty. He showed us that he too felt a various range of emotions. Unlike so many of us and myself included, he told the entire world about his feelings. He opened up to all of us and in return inspired us all.
I could never sum up how I see Peter into words because I feel I would fall short and never truely do him justice. No matter how bad the lows were, I could never view him any differently than I do now. I will NEVER lose the love, admiration and respect I have for him. Nothing could make me feel any different.
Knowledge is powerful and when it's used as an example, it can be more helpful to others than if it were swept beneath the rug and forgotten. He had demons just like everyone else but his was publically displayed and told to millions. I remember watching an interview with Peter on YouTube one night where he said that he wanted people to learn a little from his mistakes atleast. And I hope that his stuggles in life create life lessons for all of us because we all have our demons, we all have our problems. We all fail people and more importantly at some point, we will fail ourselves. He proved that you can continue on, you can become better, you can overcome your demons and although he's not here anymore to continue to help us all realize that we hold the power to overcome any obstacle in life, I think that sharing the lows with everyone will help people all to realize how much he struggled and how long and hard of a road it was for him.
A million thanks to Peter, for everything he did, for all that he gave, for all that he was in life, and the inspiration he can still be, even in death.
Thank you again to the Ratajczyk family. For as much pain as we feel over this, I can't imagine what it has been like for all of you for losing such a beautiful, wonderful and caring man like Peter Steele. We are forever greatful to him and we are greatful for all of you. And I sincerely hope that this blog helps you all to heal. And I hope Peter found the comfort and peace he seeked in life. Although he's in an eternal sleep, we will keep him alive here. For the body dies but the soul never does.
I reiterate as well, thank you so much for this blog. It is a highlight in my day. I appreciate you, the entire Ratajczyk family and anything you choose to share with us. It makes perfect sense that an amazing man has an amazing family, but with all you have shared with us so far. . .and then to open it up and care about what we want to know...you truly go above and beyond.
ReplyDeleteEver since a friend claimed "You HAVE to hear this" and played Bloody Kisses for me some 15 odd years ago, I have loved this band. Peter's words have meant so much to me and helped me through many points in my life. Helped me feel justified in being angry when I was hurt and betrayed. . . made me feel better when I was trying to heal. Let me know its ok to laugh at yourself. I am so grateful for how our dear Drab Four opened up their lives to us. They are and will always be my favorite everything. I was so looking forward to hearing what was next.
I continue to cry for a man I never personally met. I feel blessed to say he has visited my dreams a few times now though. It was exactly what I needed and he was perfectly kind and wonderful. I see no reason to believe a real meeting would have gone any differently :)
I appreciate the opportunity to read any and all of these stories. The good and the bad. That is life. It is why we are who we are and we all have our demons. More than some, less than others. It's probably harder to win when everyone is looking at you. I'm so sorry that evil was able to get so close to him.
I don't have too much to add to any of the suggestions already here. I love all the personal touches. Growling at cars on Coney Island and An Incubis is a Nice Demon had me amused all day! I would like to hear if his car has been found and returned to the family as it should be. And hear more about that car while we're at it. Did it drive his mom crazy or was she impressed by his ingenuity? lol. I hope that it was with love as it was intended, but what was the reaction to the campaign for Peter's Tree in Prospect Park? Are there any misquotes or rumors in particular that made him or the family angry? Here is an opportunity to set the story straight.
I will end with this (and I am sorry, I didn't intend to write so much!) the moment this ceases to be a positive force, as an online community or in your life, it is time to stop. I look forward to all the pics and stories I did not know before and I agree, I would buy the biography, I would buy a compilation of all these things. However, it is all about you and it is most important that this remains a good place for the Ratajczyks!
Thank you over and over
First of all – I absolutely love this picture – it seems so peaceful.
ReplyDeleteI can only agree with most of the comments here – thank you for being so open minded/hearted and so generous to share so many of your personal memories of Peter with us – I am always looking forward to your posts each day. Any of your posts is just so welcome - please feel free to share also moments that were low or complicated because this is simply a part of life and maybe it would help others to deal with similar struggles – and up to my experience I can only tell that it helps to talk about things like that. I know that situations like these are not easy to accept plus one feels just so helpless from time to time, and on the other hand the person you want to help most of the times is not able to see this slow motion suicide and pain caused or maybe seeing it but simply just not being able to act in another way because of addiction – it’s a long and hard way not only physical but mainly mental – I know this quite well. Peter has put this in very simple and true words ‘the pick-up’s easy but the put-down’s rough’ in the lyrics to ‘Dead again’. A lot of respect to him that he did take on this challenge and got sober and a lot of respect to you the family and everyone who supported him during that hard time. Weird timing again – the video you have mentioned – I watched it a few days ago … well to me it was clear that his mind was really upset at the time due to many reasons – so it made me sad somehow to see him like this but I was also hoping that he had the chance to sort it out and would make peace again with his family he always loved, cared and cherished so much – so I am glad to read here that this was talked over. I think it’s common in situations like these to be very angry with the world and everyone you thought are ‘on your side’ – mixed emotions and traumatic situations combined with substance abuse - not easy for all involved. Now – to my curiosity ;-) - I would be interested to learn more about ‘the list of Peter’s interests’ (especially languages, religion, science, Iceland) but as stated above any of your precious memories, you are willing to share, is so much appreciated.
Finally I would like to say: ‘I think the whole Ratajzcyk family is special Blut’ - thank you for your setting up this blog & your communication with us and for letting us be part of Peter’s and your life!
Sabine, Austria
I wish to once again extend a huge "THANK YOU" to the Darcie and the rest of the Ratajczyk Family for this blog! It means so much to us "the fans" to be able to share this with you. I hope it continues to provide peace to you as it does to us to learn how he was part of so many lives.
ReplyDeleteWe can accept the "lows" of his life as well. As many of us have been affected by the blight of addiction we can understand what comes along with this. To see interviews, performaces, and videos of public displays of his substance abuse does not lessen my respect for him. I think we all understand that it was part of him, but just a part. He was so much more to us and now we know to his family as well.
And to those who want to spew your poison, you are not welcome here.
Thank you so much for sharing your special memories of Peter with us. ♥
Deletewe love type o negative and peter,and we love you the family for giving us somewhere to go and remember him! and to get to know him more!
ReplyDelete-erik hernandez-
Possibly dumb question, but I've seen mention of Cathy's Facebook page... could someone post a link or something? I have searched high and low and am at a complete loss. Thanks.
ReplyDeleteFirst, I want to acknowledge and thank the you all for their generous investment in time, energy and emotion that has gone into the creation of this blog. Every post is always very thoughtful and accompanied by a picture that probably had to be scanned in, and I look forward to it each day.
ReplyDeleteI am very glad to see that Peter had such a supportive and encouraging family that no doubt played a major part in nurturing him to be the artist that he was. By continuing this blog, you are still enabling him to make a difference in this world. That difference could be anything from a smile on somebody's face half a world away, to somebody being inspired to get treatment for a substance abuse problem and turn their life around.
Second, I just wanted to let you know why Type O Negative was significant to me. Although I have listened to the band on and off since 2001, the music really took on a new meaning for me in 2007 and 2008 (age 24-25) when I was dealing with the passing of my pet dog and a serious chronic disease in myself (actually the dog and me had the same condition). Some of the songs (particularly Life Is Killing Me) were directly about what I was experiencing and they helped me to view my somewhat unfavourable future with a sense of humour that has surely been as beneficial to keeping me well as diet and exercise.
I listen to Type O on the bus on the way to the hospital, while I sit in waiting rooms (yes I once waited three hours :), when old people in the ward wake me up coughing in the middle of the night. Once I brought a DVD with me but the nurse came and told me to turn it off because my vitals were showing I was getting too over excited...
So thank you to Pete and Type O Negative for creating music I could relate to when barely anybody else understands... and thank you once again to his family and friends for making Pete the man he was and honouring his memory.
You are doing a good, good thing.
Thank you very very much for posting this great blog. It`s a wonderful gift for me as a fan of Type O and especialy of Peter Steele. Once I felt in love with these unique and inenarrable in-deep lyrics. In a way it`s a obsession to hear these kind of lyrics, Pete wrote. I don`t know another musician with this ability and was always wondered that he sung these personal lyrics in public. Now to read so funny, sweet, interesting and sad storys about him is such a precious gift. I wish I could do anything to make him live again. Wishing you, the writers and the family all the best for your future. With kind regards - Jana (Sorry for my english)
ReplyDeletefor my part I can can only say that I feel it a very big gift of you, Petes' family, to share those intimate insights, which usually are not supposed to be known to the public. As you probably know, it feels rather unreal "knowing" someone (like your uncle) and indeed absolutetly NOT knowing this person, so most of the "knowing" someone like P.S. is more or less inside ones own imagination. I think whatever you people decide to tell us, it is "just" a very big present to us, the fans. Guess there is no right or wrong. It's all...just right
ReplyDeleteHello Darcie
ReplyDeleteI dont know whats involved with setting up a blog like this but it would cool to have somewhere to show our Peter tribute tattoos or paintings we have done.
@Gayle - I would like to have a way to post artwork from fans. If anyone can explain how to do this, please email me privately at Cathy Ratajczyk FB page.
ReplyDeleteI think it's a fantastic idea. There is a widget that can be added to this site that lets photos scroll, but it seems the photos must come from a hosting website. So, I'm reaching out to you my dear TECHIE friends - lease help me figure it out.
Thanks!
I remember the first time I heard Type O, back in '94, it was Summer Breeze. It was weird sounding but oddily soo soothing. I played it to my Mom who was a bit perplexed but still was rather impressed, especially her being a big Beatles fan. All these years later, I'll never forget the magic I felt that first time, and I proudly blast Type O down the dirty streets of Lorain where others are blasting their favorite rap and crap. I miss Pete but seeing his real side is so refreshing. Thank you to the Ratajczyks for sharing. You guys rock!
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing Peter with all of us. When he died, I felt so lost as I didn't know too many TON fans here in Portland, OR. It was incredibly painful for me, because it felt like no one cared.
ReplyDeleteI'm deeply sorry to hear about the loss of your eldest sister, Nancy. I had no idea you all were reeling from that loss, only to get kicked in the face again by Peter's passing. My heart ached thinking maybe he died without patching things up with his family, until your explanation on the blog. Thank you again for all your stories and photos, my biggest regret is that I never met him personally.
seeing this is being posted by peters family i want to take the time to thank them for wonderful stories. as a fan I want to share a special story at least to me about Peter.I met him briefly at a concert in Boston in 1999, i believe it was world coming down.as we were waiting to go into the venue,we noticed a bunch of kids going across the streettowards a bus. so we went over to see what was going on.off the bus steps Peter and he was taking pictures and giving autographs. We did get his autograph but sadly we had no camera. Iam 56 years old a little older than peter,and that year my world was coming down I was loosingmy father to cancer,Iwant to thank peters family for his kindness just the simple act of saying, hello, happy halloween and giving me his autograph. it is one memory i will have a lifetime,itwas one bright spoy in an other wise awful year, my father passed in dec.of that year,you never really know how much a random act of kindness can mean to someone..Of course i did thank Peter,but he never knew how much happiness he brought me that year.
ReplyDeleteAnother thing that would be awesome is if the family put together a tribute/photo type magazine or book for fans to purchase. I think the memorial t-shirt is gorgeous, but I kind of like to have something I can read as well. It would be really nice if you could separate fact from fiction regarding his interviews, I didn't know him so I never knew if he was serious or not. Thanks again for incredible blog, it's truly a treasure.
ReplyDeleteWhile I love reading the stories, the pictures are my favorite part of this blog. Pictures give such an intense view into Pete's life - what he wore, who he was with, what year it was... pictures are worth a thousand words, and thanks for sharing them with us. It's a real gift.
ReplyDeleteI already thanked you ... sorry for being anonymous. One more thing: I would be very interested to hear stories of Petes and your older relatives, maybe when and where you moved to Brooklyn etc. As an European citizen this would be interesting. And again - so many thanks, this is the only website/blog I have to time follow (work, family...) and I really do.
ReplyDeleteThank you again for all of these wonderful stories. Anything and everything your family wishes to share about Peter, I'd love to hear. Ive spent a lot of time on the internet trying to find out more about him. But you are correct, not all of what you read is true. I think I speak for all fans when I say we want to know the truth, and weed out all the lies and junk that tarnish his beautiful soul. I as well look forward to these posts daily. When my phone dings and I see its my gmail I get all excited. Keep it coming! -Kristen ( I cant seem to get my profile to register :()
ReplyDeleteI think I'm responding to a post from Marie, right? Sometimes it's hard for me to keep up with all the familial relationships quoted in the blog - there are quite a few of you! :-) Perhaps a family tree to help us sort out "who belongs to whom"???
ReplyDeleteSo many thanks for all the great anecdotes and photos that you all have been sharing. It is more than I ever through I would get to experience as a fan of TON and Peter. It's a privilege, really, to be able to get these personal glimpses into his life.
I WOULD like to offer a suggestion, since you asked! :-) I am completely enamored with TON's music and can't seem to get it out of my car's 6-disk changer! And while I know almost every lyric there is to know, one thing always escapes me - when lyrics are sung, or chanted in some cases, in what my husband and I jokingly refer to as "Vinnish". It's prevalent in "September Sun", "She Burns Me Down", "Nettie", and others. Do you, or does anyone, know what's being said here? I would love to know how it figures into the songs, and no one on the many FB "Peter pages" ever answers when I ask - it's maddening!
This, and the origins and/or experiences behind TON's songs, would really help satisfy my curiosity! Of course, if they are about actual individuals, I understand the need for privacy.
Apologies if someone else already made a request like this - I didn't have time to read all 79 responses to this post!
Thanks for considering - God bless you and your family!
Patrice D'Angelo
I dunno where else to post this. I'm still reeling from the loss of the singer of my own band just a couple weeks ago.......I played in A.C. (anal cunt..yeah you read it right) anyways Pete came to see us in Brooklyn about 5 years ago. Growing up, Carnivore was pretty much my favorite band ever. After the gig, we all went to Duffs. I was, um, kicking a drug habit and was rather depressed. Pete noticed this and was said something like "whats wrong with you?? You just played a great gig and you're looking sad???" I told him what was up (knowing that he could relate). He had a few really good looking girls hanging all over him and he blew them off to help cheer me up. I will never forget that. For the entire night he hung out with me, and made me laugh. RIP Pete.
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I was so grateful to the point of tears and hen I read that your mother(Patricia) and your aunts had been forgiven/on good terms with Peter.
ReplyDelete. I know exactly what interview you were talking about and I literally cringed when I heard Peter's words. I felt so much empathy for those who had tried to stage the interventions.
I can see how close you were as a family. Thank you for sharing. I don't know if this will be a double post.